tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15932919.post7678409235559021282..comments2024-03-19T02:22:46.855-07:00Comments on Teacher Tom: Kids In The House: Spanking And PreschoolersTeacher Tomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14606781724784785338noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15932919.post-11435060441367528622013-10-05T16:03:46.236-07:002013-10-05T16:03:46.236-07:00I was the person who shrugged and said "I tur...I was the person who shrugged and said "I turned out okay." I have used time-outs and positive rewards more than anything else but I think this article may pull me away from spanking altogether.<br /><br />Even though I was taught to never spank a child while you were still angry with them, after being a victim of domestic violence, delivering that sort of punishment where my child must submit to my physical superiority seems like a tremendously sad way to go about it. There has not been a single instance where a "quiet time" or "time-out" coming down from a tantrum has not been effective for our little one, so why take a coarser route? Breeding violence and depression is the furthest thing I want to accomplish in my child's life, these are the biggest selling points for me (among many other good ones).<br /><br />As a youngish mom, I can shamefully admit this one of the few things I never did research for myself. I was willing to do what I knew. I will be scrutinized as the "one the that doesn't believe in spanking" quite brutally in my family but I will keep moving forward (anything to keep my daughters heart as tender as it is right now). Thanks, Tom, for being an advocate and helping me rethink this!MisfitMommynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15932919.post-63304324057585655842013-09-12T02:18:02.094-07:002013-09-12T02:18:02.094-07:00Beautifully said Tom...
There's nothing else t...Beautifully said Tom...<br />There's nothing else to say in my eyes You just said it. Lisa Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09179541063262611643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15932919.post-38640035580149551382013-09-11T16:53:57.152-07:002013-09-11T16:53:57.152-07:00Those who say that the Bible teaches spanking are ...Those who say that the Bible teaches spanking are not reading correctly. The rod (from "Spare the rod and spoil the child" was a unit of measure. Not a stick to hit with. Its like a yard stick to us. In other words, the scripture reads, "avoid standards of behavior and your child will not measure up". The text is an advocate to teach a child, not hit them. Next, the only person I "Hit" is me, if I need a child's attention. A firm smack on my thigh, will startle them, and then I do teaching. Children often cannot control their emotions, hitting only makes it worse, as now the parent has lost control. Pretty scary for a little kid. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00655352699557615866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15932919.post-43434610447842237392013-09-11T11:15:17.013-07:002013-09-11T11:15:17.013-07:00Excellent article TT. To me, spanking is as outda...Excellent article TT. To me, spanking is as outdated as the idea of corporal punishment. Having also worked with under fives for the last 7 years, I have only ever needed positive reward systems to support children in learning how to behave properly.<br /><br />As teachers and parents, it is our job to guide children to make the right choices in their behaviour, and to support them to do so with good modelling and positive reinforcement. <br /> <br />I hope that doesn't sound too teacher jargon-y! But I am as passionate about this subject as you are.<br /><br />Thanks so much for putting this article out there. I'm going to be sharing it.<br /><br />http://playitagainmummy.wordpress.comPlayitagainmummyhttp://playitagainmummy.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com