tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15932919.post2975875556628724376..comments2024-03-26T07:07:14.304-07:00Comments on Teacher Tom: The ScatterersTeacher Tomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14606781724784785338noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15932919.post-22942676633048035542009-07-23T12:31:30.324-07:002009-07-23T12:31:30.324-07:00I'm happy it worked Maya. There's some pow...I'm happy it worked Maya. There's some power in speaking informatively with children, rather than just directing them. No body likes to be told what to do.<br /><br />And you're right, it won't always work!Teacher Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606781724784785338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15932919.post-32021347398500934792009-07-22T20:24:31.327-07:002009-07-22T20:24:31.327-07:00Tom, I tried your technique tonight and had fantas...Tom, I tried your technique tonight and had fantastic results. Thanks for guiding me through this one. I very calmly said, as I noticed a library book outside on the lawn, "I notice there's a library book outside on the grass. Library books belong in your bedroom." Sammy said, "Oh, yeah. I'll take it in." I was like, OMG, can this really be happening? In the past, I've done this but usually in a frantic state. This time I combined the calm with the language and it gave me results. I doubt that it will always go this way, but it sure felt nice to have a quiet outcome.Maya Catching Butterflieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12165369520982975833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15932919.post-67153248573499470732009-07-22T16:55:30.848-07:002009-07-22T16:55:30.848-07:00You're lucky. Lauren's a fantastic teacher...You're lucky. Lauren's a fantastic teacher. I hugged her at the Solstice Parade!<br /><br />I'll read your post. Thanks.Teacher Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606781724784785338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15932919.post-64056344020129152052009-07-22T14:41:16.609-07:002009-07-22T14:41:16.609-07:00Hi Teacher Tom, thanks for the comment on my garde...Hi Teacher Tom, thanks for the comment on my garden post (like all bloggers comments are golden) :). <br /><br />I thought you might enjoy this one from earlier in the year: http://welliwillbeamonkeysmama.blogspot.com/2009/01/monsters-monsters-everywhere.html<br /><br />We tried to get into your pre-three's last year but alas, we were denied. We're at Crown Hill and going into Teacher Lauren's class next year. Cheers!Monkey's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01437699085199871699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15932919.post-75348482408677595072009-07-22T14:10:50.825-07:002009-07-22T14:10:50.825-07:00Well Maya, the first thing I'll say is that pa...Well Maya, the first thing I'll say is that parent-child relationships are much different than teacher-child relationships.<br /><br />That said, at school I've found that it's all about patient, calm, steady repetition, which is easier to do when you're at school with nothing else to do but teach the kids. Sometimes it takes 15-20 minutes of repetition and it's often the other kids who wind up handling the clean up, which means they get the "reward" of attention from Teacher Tom.<br /><br />The situation you describe sounds more like a classic "power play", where she's essentially challenging you to make her do it. Of course, you can force her, but then you're teaching the lesson that might makes right.<br /><br />I'm guessing you'll have to give it even more time with more repetition, and you'll probably want to make sure she gets no attention (positive or negative) for screaming or crying or even trying to make nice, until the shoes get put away. If I were you I'd try just going about my business and whenever she tries to engage you in something, just repeat, matter-of-factly, "The shoes are in the middle of the floor and they belong by the front door." I wouldn't even look at her, I'd look at the shoes. And when it finally happens, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it either -- just note that the shoes are now where they belong.<br /><br />Hope this helps.Teacher Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606781724784785338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15932919.post-29765701728455955422009-07-22T12:53:57.696-07:002009-07-22T12:53:57.696-07:00Any suggestions about what to do when the child sa...Any suggestions about what to do when the child says, "I'm too tired. You pick them up." I've tried this approach before where i simply state the scenario, "I notice your shoes are in the middle of the floor and they belong by the front door." and all I get is, "I'm too tired, or screams about how hard it is to do it." I eventually end up picking the shoes up myself with little or no help from my child. What do you suggest?Maya Catching Butterflieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12165369520982975833noreply@blogger.com